Thank God I Am Thirty

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I am still only half way through my PFW looks, I told you I was busy gathering lots of inspiration for you. This is one of the best dresses I have worn, I know I have said that a few times lately but I am happy to say I have finally established what I love to wear, what suits me and what makes me feel confident. It has taken me thirty years to realise this and be happy within myself. I am not sure if this is physiological or this is just how “it” happens when you turn the big 30. My favourite subject at the moment is turning thirty. If you are thirty plus then you will be able to relate to this article. If you are not yet thirty then please take note that it really isn’t and at all bad. If you manage to work out what I worked out at thirty and you are in your twenties you are one lucky soul and I wish I had been like you.

In Paris I discovered a lot about my self, this is all I talk about since I have been back in London. I think a lot to do with my new revelation was getting married and spending a week with Emma, I am sure you all read her blog too. We had both turned thirty and both got married within weeks of each other. I could not have spent a week with anyone better, we are so in sync with our lives and it was funny to talk to her about turning thirty. I loved reading Emma’s previous article here, her outlook was slightly different to mine but we both agree that it really isn’t as bad as what we predicted and we both feel settled in life and know who we are. It is such a great feeling and helped me as a blogger. It helped me realise what avenue I want to take regarding my brand and how I live my life. It was exhausting trying to work out who I was and what I liked. It sounds fickle to think this but my entire life has been to get to where I am now; happy in my job, happy with the love of my life, happy with the best friends I could ever wish for and happy that I finally know my style!

I have experimented with some horros over the years, the main one being pink and girly. All my life I was a tom boy, I played with fire engines and were boys clothes. When I reached eighteen, actually fifiteen I discovered boys, clubs, tight body con dresses and make up so I thought I should be more girly. I would say from the age of sixteen to twenty eight I had no bloody idea who I was and where I was going. I have now realised I am for sure a tom boy and no need for any more experimenting. If you feel like this just enjoy it and realise everyone feels like this. Look forward to being thirty and enjoying your life. Also remember these are the years when you need to work as hard as possible. You need to make the tea at work, be spoken to like a donkey by the bi*ch that hates you, but as long as you work hard and I mean HARD and never give up you can achieve anything. If I told you I came from nothing would you believe me? I cam from nothing, from a struggling family and a terminally ill dad. My struggles when I was a child made me fight so hard to have what I have now. My mum would save every penny to take me to Harrods for lunch and show me how “the others” live. I am now one of those “others” and I got there on my own with the guidance of a strong mum. I have so much fight and ambition in me and the result is having my dream house, dream wardrobe and dream life. Please do not see this a bragging, please read this as encouragement to reach for your dreams and believe anything is possible.

I never thought I would be luckily enough to work for myself and do what I love day in and day out. The key thing here is I didn’t get here by luck, I got where I am by hard work and dedication. I had so many knock backs and bad experience but they didn’t stop me. They may have made me cry for an hour but I wouldn’t give up. Even today as an adult I meet horrible, selfish, fake people who use others to get where they want. You will always meet people like this in life. Cut them out and concentrate on you, allow these people to be the fuel to push you harder. I thank the people that hate me and cause me grieve because these people push me to do better. So thanks haters.

I was told by one of the directors at Harrods “always be nice to everyone because you do not know where that person will end up” this has always stuck in my mind because plenty of people have dismissed me and now they want to know me. They could have done with the advice I was told. I also read the book Girl Boss, written by Sophia Amoruso. In her book she talks about a girl who consumed her because she used to copy everything she did. Someone told her that if she constantly thought about this girl and hated on her everyday do you think this would stop her from doing well? The answer is no. Sophia decided to turn that negative energy into a positive and direct all the hate into her own brand. It pushed her to do better and wipe the floor with the other copy cat. I absolutely loved this and I use this technique when I have people bring me down. It doesn’t matter what job you do or what industry you are in, we can all relate to this subject.

Who would have thought a dress could create such a personal article. I think this has shown you who much I love this dress! This dress is slightly pricey for high street but it is 100% leather and the detail is exquisite. This dress can stay in you wardrobe forever, the cost per wear will defiantly be worth it. I love the shape, it is perfect for my body type (I have tummy but okay legs) and the pockets are epic. I have worn this dress three times; here with biker boots, once with heels and third time I experimented a bit and I think it is safe to say one of the best looks you will see on my blog to date. This look will be up Friday.

My jacket was meant to be my bridal jacket but I didn’t end up wearing it. I had it saved in my wardrobe for over a year and it took me even longer find. I saw the jacket on Pinterest, isn’t Pinterest the worst because it’s random photos full of sold out items or items you will never find. Me being me and doing the job I do I was on a mission for nearly two years to find it. I didn’t even know the brand, I was totally clueless where to start. I finally found it on etsy here. I also bought the top to match. I bought the top twice because Tallulah has a thing for pearls and chewed the pearls off. It was the only time I have ever hated her. I hated her one other time which was the day after my wedding when she ate the jacket but thankfully we caught her and managed to salvage the damage.

I hope this article inspired you to do well, try hard an dream big. If it didn’t at least I got to vent because I still see my blog as my dairy and still think no one reads it. I think that is why I write so much. At least you can be reminded to invest in luxury pieces that will stand the test of time and wear over and over. I am pro re wear, I would choose a leather dress over a faux leather that won’t last or feel as good to wear. It’s all about cost per wear, quality not quantity and being creative to re style your wardrobe. What is the point on buying a cheap dress, wearing it once and never touching it again? Be smart with your shopping.

This article was inspired by the Clothes Show Live.  For me the Clothes Show was the first place I entered the fashion industry and the first fashion related experience I had. The show was where it all started for me and it made me think how much I have achieved since that teenager that walked around amazed by everything. I am giving away two tickets to one lucky reader for 5th of December. All you have to do is comment on this article and follow my Instagram @iamchouquette. To read more about the Clothes Show click here. 

CC xx